Happy (early) Father’s Day
Enjoy this guest post by FDL Reference Assistant and new dad Jacob Roberts!
So I recently discovered what it is like to be a dad—exhausting, but rewarding. Leading up to the big day I found that the number one thing I could do was have no expectations. People were generous with tips, advice, and opinions; but when it boiled down to it I knew every baby will be different and it was best to prepare for the day with no expectations. I would have to say leading up to the day that my beautiful daughter, Josephine, would come into this world was the hardest thing I had to wait for. There is nothing like it, because you cannot count down the days. The baby will come when their ready, and then you find yourself scrambling around preparing for everything you realize you had forgotten about for the past nine to ten months.
Now that she has arrived, though, I have to say it is a bit surreal. Throughout the pregnancy I had read plenty of articles with my wife, and even read a book titled, First-Time Dad by John Fuller, and nothing told me the somersault your brain does once you realize you are responsible for an actual human-being. Now that it has been a few weeks, I am starting to see the things those articles and books talked about, but it makes me wonder if they forget about that initial flood of emotions at the hospital. Self-help books can only get a dad so far, until they realize they have to figure out their own quirky ways of doing things. Maybe that is the best thing those books and articles can do. Maybe they are there to reassure dads that another guy has done it before them, and now it’s time for a new dad to put their own spin on parenting.
One thing that I have decided to do with Josephine, is to read her five books a day. As I get busier, I know this will be more challenging, and may even go down to two or three a day. However, I believe reading is a great time for helping her learn those fundamental skills of imagination, reading, and language while also giving us some daddy-daughter time each day. I have always thought books have so much to teach us, and they really are the window to the world. If somebody can learn to read, then they can learn anything.
Having spent so much of these last few weeks reading children’s books to Josephine, I have realized there are some good books and some subpar books. I will stray from defaming some books I realize are deemed classics and family-favorites, especially because I know every household has its favorites. Instead, I will share some of the books that I found extra meaningful for our family. One book that my wife grew up reading was Sam McBratney’s Guess How Much I Love You. This book didn’t have much meaning to me before Josephine, but I now find it a favorite of our household as well (we even have the Spanish version—Adivina Cuanto Te Quiero!). I also have come to enjoy reading all of the Winnie the Pooh books we have at home. Pooh’s adventures with his friends are always light-hearted and show what friendship and love should be. One other type of book I like to read to Josephine are our collection of bedtime stories. It may change in the future, but as of right now my favorite to read to her before bed is Sandra Boynton’s Pajama Time. I love that she uses animals in all of her books, just like her The Going-To-Bed Book, but I just love how fun and catchy it is to read Pajama Time to Josie.
After all that has been said, I look forward to the days, weeks, months, and years to come that Josie and I will share as dad and daughter. By the time she is grown we will have shared so many memories, and I can only hope that a good chunk of those will be spent enjoying the literature this world has to offer.
Post by Jacob Roberts, Reference Assistant
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